Monday, June 15, 2015

How to Find The Drive to Take Actions Towards Your Goals

When it comes to time-management, you often know what you need to do. But when it comes time to take action, you can't seem to feel the drive to do it. Many times I give speeches about time-management, and I often hear people say they lack the drive to take action. Recently, I gave a speech about time-management, and the issue came up again. Two of my participants said, "We know we need to set priorities, make choices etc. But when it comes to working on our business, we are not as motivated to take action towards our goals."

This news really bothered me. So I decided to take action and do some more research on the subject. Some of the information I found did not surprise me, and some did. This weekend I watched a Tony Robbins video where he spoke about why some people take massive action and others don't.

 Here are 7 of the reasons why people are either motivated or not motivated to take action towards their goals. Some were revealed to me through this interesting video, and some were my own personal observations over the years.

1) FEAR: Fear is the #1 reason why people don't take action. People are afraid they will fail. I also personally noticed that people are fearful of change. Many people prefer not to take action because they feel comfortable being where they are and with what is familiar to them. The problem is remaining in your comfort-zone just keeps you stuck in the same pattern you are. When you get the courage to step out of what is familiar to you and try something new and scary, it helps you overcome your fears and opens your mind to possibilities. Tony Robbins says that all you need to do is to take very small actions. Not everyone is ready to take big massive actions. If this is the case, simply start with small ones.

2) YOUR MISSION. People don't know their why. I personally believe that before we do anything, it is important to know why we are doing it. Most people don't think about this question. Why are you selling X product? What is your goal? How can you serve people with these products? However, there is another why and it is what I personally call your life mission. I strongly believe we all have a mission on this earth, to contribute to this world in a positive way, a way that can change the world for the better. Sadly, most people don't know what theirs is. What happens is they don't have a reason to take action. When you know your mission, the reason of your existence on this earth, you naturally feel motivated, propelled and even excited to take action. In addition, your life begins to have more meaning.

3) YOUR MUST. Tony Robbins says that people need a  must, meaning people need to feel they must do something. I am one of these people who believe that what I am doing is a must. I am a very self-driven person. This comes by having the determination and ambition to achieve.

4) FAITH. This means faith that whatever you are doing is possible. In the month of May this year, I gave a workshop on how to find your passion and pursue it. I had one participant who thinks she cannot realize her dream. She believes it is impossible. Since she was a young child, she was taught that her dream of being a designer cannot be realized. In the country where she lived, there were no designer schools. Unfortunately, she grew up with the false idea that it is impossible to achieve what she desired. She lived the rest of her life feeling unhappy because she felt she cannot fulfill her passion. Faith in yourself and in your dream and goals, is crucial in finding the drive to do what you desire. This is what gives you the fuel to take action. If you don't believe you can accomplish something, then you perhaps don't believe in your own capabilities. It is possible that your journey will not be easy, but there is a saying: "Whatever you conceive and believe you can achieve."-Natalie Ledwell

5) A STRONG AND DEEP DESIRE. Do you really really desire it? Whatever your goal is, do you really desire it? If you don't feel motivated to take action and others want it more than you do, ask yourself if you really desire it. Many people love iphones. Not all people have the money to buy an iphone, yet I see them pass on other things, but get this phone. This proves that when you really want something, your mind will find ways to get it even if you may think you can't. When you have a deep desire, you will have the drive and the energy to go after what you want.

6) YOU ARE NOT READY. Some of you might not be ready yet. Perhaps it is not the right moment in your self-development to take action. Perhaps you will find the drive later in life. That is alright. Each person has a specific moment in life when he is ready for change and transformation. When the right moment comes, you will feel it, and know it is the time to take action and move yourself forward.

7) TOO OLD, TOO LATE. People in their fifties or sixties  feel it is too late to make changes because of their age. It is never too late, and age should not create a barrier for you to set new goals, or allow it to deplete your energy in any way.

I suggest that you examine all of these points and see which one resonates with you the most. Once you are aware of the barriers that prevent you from taking action, you can start by looking at them. Then, do a personal introspection, and see why they are there and where do they come from. Why do you feel fear? Does a specific experience in the past trigger it? Once you do this, you can move forward and see what has given you the drive to take action in the past and what was effective. Each one of us had something that gave us motivation and energy to do something. Right now, are there  other domains in your life where you feel very motivated to take action? Why? What motivates you?

I strongly believe that when you really desire something you conquer fears, and you make it a priority in your life. If you don't have the motivation, ask yourself if you really have a strong desire to have what your heart wants and reach a goal, whatever it is. I know one thing,  if you want an iphone or a vacation and you can make it happen, then you can reach any goal you set your mind to. You can find the motivation to pursue it, and find time to work on it, even if it means waking up one hour earlier in the morning or going to sleep later to get it done. If you desire results, action needs to be taken in order to bring it into fruition, and not just any action, but one that comes from your intuition. Even the wrong actions are good actions. One day I was walking in my neighborhood, and I heard a little voice saying: "All paths lead to the same destination." Imagine a tree. You tend to it, water it, take care of it, and it grows beautifully. However, you need to take the action to take care of it, or it will not grow and it will die. It is the same in life.

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Monday, June 8, 2015

Ignite Your Passion: 3 Effective Ways to Get Clear about Your Passion.

Do you feel tired of going to a job you don’t like? Do you come home feeling unhappy, exhausted, stressed out, unsatisfied, and empty?
 Imagine for a moment, that you can have the possibility to turn this around,
and instead wake up in the morning feeling enthusiastic and excited to start your day. Yes, it is possible!

I found my passion in 2006, but for a long time, I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life. I was just
 like you, unclear, feeling insecure, frustrated, empty, exhausted, and bored. I worked in a job that I thought I liked, but didn’t. The worst part was I was not successful, and I didn’t know why. The reason was because
 I didn’t like it, but I was not aware of it at the time. 

The problem is that you do what you don’t love, because that is what society dictates to you.  You do it
 because you want to please others and have their approval. This is what you were taught thinking it was
 right and you go home feeling unsatisfied, unhappy, stressed out and empty. Sometimes you want to do 
what  you love, but you don’t know what it is. You don’t believe you can accomplish it, or worse, you are
afraid to even think that you have that possibility. You also may want to do something, however, you are
 unclear about what it is. 
You may have many ideas of what you desire to do, but you can’t decide which one is the right idea. You 
are afraid to even think about it
 or consider it, because you feel it is impossible to achieve.  Imagine a box where you place your desire. 
You lock it with a key and never look at it again. The problem is this desire is still burning in your heart
 yearning to be expressed.

When you love what you do, you feel happier, more satisfied with your life, enthusiastic, successful and 
 Each woman deserves to do something she loves to do for a career or even a hobby. Each woman deserves
 to be happy.

Why do you need to follow your passion?  Why it is important? It is important to follow your passion,
because it brings happiness to your life. This happiness is essential to your well-being, self-esteem, health, as well as your relationship with others. When you follow your passion, you have freedom. You do something that is
 authentic to you. 

Imagine coming home to your family feeling relaxed and satisfied with your day. You feel your heartbeat
 go a hundred miles an hour. You feel more energized. There is a smile on your face. Money starts flowing
in because people feel the vibration of deep love. You feel happy in your work, and as a consequence, you get to be more present with your
 family and give them more attention.  Most of all, you are being a good example, a champion to your 
children. When you follow your heart,
 you show them what makes you happy, and that taking care of yourself is important. This in turn makes 
them happy, and they learn that
they matter to you and to themselves. They see that it is important to do what they love in life, to be happy, and live a meaningful life being authentic to who they are.

Imagine for a moment how it is to go to a job every day that you don’t like. You need the money, but come home feeling miserable. Then, you are so busy thinking how miserable you are at work, that you may not be as present as you would like to be with your children and your partner. Yes, you may have the income you desire, but if you are not happy, your loved ones won’t be happy either. It affects you and your 
relationships. Why live a miserable unhappy life, when you can live a happy one and give a hundred
 percent to those you love and who love 
you back? I strongly believe that every single minute of the day you make a choice in how you desire to

Now, you may agree with all of this, but you may feel unclear about what it is you would like to do for a
living. You may be working in a job that you don’t like, and thinking of finding something that lights a
fire in your heart, but you don’t know how to get clear. In this blog, I will show you 3 Effective Ways to
get clear about your passion and how to ignite it.


1) Take a journey back to your childhood.

What are some of the activities you liked to do as a child? When you were a child, what did you dream
about becoming when you grew up? What were some games you loved to play? Whatever you dreamed
about as a child, can give you a clue to what you really desire. We get so caught up in trying to be
 realistic, that we forget to dream and get in 
touch with our inner child. That inner child has many answers for us about what we are truly passionate
 about. Be fearless, and go back to that 
time when you weren’t afraid to dream. Write down your thoughts, record them, or speak to a friend who is a good listener, as well as
open and supportive. 

2) Too many options? Which one to choose?

You may be someone who has many ideas about what it is you would like to pursue as your passion, but
you are unable to choose JUST ONE. In this case, write down all of your options. Choose five that
 resonate most with you. 
Then, put a number next to each of them on a scale of 110, 1 being the lowest, and 10 being the highest.  
Next, narrow it down to three options. Put a number of preference again. By now, you should have an 
answer. Observe daily how you feel 
about this option. Get quiet each day, and simply observe what feelings come up. Write them down.

3) Getting to Know Yourself.

What are some of your values? Many times, lack of clarity may appear because you may not know yourself as well as you think you do.
 Knowing what your values are, can help you find a job that aligns with who
 you really are, and what you value most. This can bring you closer to what you are meant to do on this
earth. Knowing what your beliefs are, is another way to getting more in touch with yourself. What are some of your beliefs?
 Why do you believe in them? What do you like? What do you dislike? What matters most to you in life? 

Now, your exciting assignment is to apply these exercises in your life. Leave a comment below on how it
 has worked for you. We looked at three main points; 1) what activities you liked as a child, 2) narrowing
down your options, and 3) discovering your values. If you have any questions, I will be more than happy
to answer and support you on this journey by helping you get motivated to take action.

Remember, when you discover your passion, you will live a happier, richer, more abundant life from within.   You will feel a sense of 
wholeness. Life will become more meaningful, and you will feel a sense of
direction and purpose. Time will go so fast that you will feel as if you are dancing through it! Imagine two
flowers; one that is dying, and one that is blooming and flourishing. Which flower do you desire to be?
 It is all about planting the seed, watering it, and allowing this seed to grow into the flower of who you are,  and what you are meant to do in
 this world. Only you can choose which path to take. I hope that you will choose to go after your dreams.

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